Comments on: Everyone looks the same in wedding movies.

By: Paulina

Paulina — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 11:34:30 +0000

These pieces really set a stadanrd in the industry.

By: FloridaBride

FloridaBride — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 04:54:55 +0000

HAHA! You can come to our wedding. All of your 'wants' will apply; I can promise you that. I am an elementary school teacher and he is a coordinator for a NFP. Our budget can be described as "cheap as hell". I would love to have the 10k budgets that I read about on here. I could fulfill my wedding dreams with that budget. Obviously, my dreams are too small. We do plan on going through with the wedding…unless he shoves cake in my face then we are getting it annulled right after the reception. The best part, while I am a pale red head, he is black and so is his family. They are indeed invited! Even better, he is Caribbean so you know the reception will be a good time full of dancing and laughing! ; )

By: Yael

Yael — Sat, 22 May 2010 13:09:37 +0000

While mainstream movies may get weddings all wrong, indie ones can certainly get them right. Probably my favourite wedding movie is "Rachel Getting Married". Leaving out Anne Hathaway and the addiction part of it, the movie totally gets the budget/eclectic/DIY/athome wedding thing. It was perfect and gorgeous and full of love and friendship.

By: Diana

Diana — Fri, 21 May 2010 04:04:11 +0000

I want to thank brides , women, and couples like you every where who have encouraged other brides, women and couples to be themselves and be true to themselves. I got caught up in the movies and actually some blogs and wedding photography blogs where girls had so many ideas and amazing DIY projects. But then I realized that those weddings and projects werent who we were and wasn't something I wanted to put my time into! Our wedding turned out to be an amazing day that represented us and our family. We did a sand ceremony that included our children (his, now ours!) and it was the one of the best, emotional, happy, beautiful things about our wedding that I will remember forever. We also wrote our own vows to each other and that is another beautiful moment that will last forever. Thank you!

By: hitchdied

hitchdied — Thu, 20 May 2010 23:36:10 +0000

As an experiment, I've been watching a wedding movie a week and Britt tells it true! The drama in wedding movies usually comes from someone attempting to thwart the wedding, not from the choices inherent to wedding planning. And there is usually an absurd source of money written into the plot so budget is not an issue (e.g. owning the White Sox, inventing coffee cup sleeves). I want to see more movies where the bride cries when she multiples cake price per slice by number of guests! I want to see more movies where the wedding actually happens. I want to see more movies where people of color are at least INVITED to the wedding, if not getting married at it. But I suspect I'll be watching the same old crap every week for the next year.

By: Christen

Christen — Thu, 20 May 2010 18:29:45 +0000

My favorite wedding — though not a movie, but still — is Jim and Pam on 'The Office.' I weeped because, let's face it, i'm a huge dork. But they run off and get married under Niagra Falls then go back and do the hullabaloo for everyone else, and get away with it because everyone else is busy being self-involved. It makes me smile.

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 19 May 2010 12:58:07 +0000

This is such a good point! I had not thought about it, but you are completely right about this…and it probably perpetuates a lot of the stereotypes we hear about weddings. I have friends that aren't immersed in wedding things like I am…and when they ask me about my upcoming wedding, it always surprises them if I say that we are doing something that isn't "normal" that they would have maybe seen in movies. What? You aren't wearing a poofy wedding dress? What? You're not wearing a veil? What? It isn't in a hotel ballroom???

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 19 May 2010 07:56:25 +0000

Funnily enough, Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere (aka my one true over-50 love) addresses this. She keeps going back for the hullabaloo everyone prescribes to weddings (and the relationships themselves) and loses herself in the process. In the end, she takes the simpler road and doesn't feel the need tor run anymore. Is it sad that I analysed Runaway Bride?

I am not actually engaged yet (wedding photographer – hence my blog & 'Bee obsession) but my partner and I are getting to that point the one thing we know is that we want a day that reflects us. Being Jewish in Sydney, Australia generally means having the same, overblown 300 guestlist circus as everyone else. Luckily we won't be engaged until the end of the year and won't be getting married for another year after that so we have time to make everyone see that us getting married is not about keeping up with the Rosens/Steins/Golds, but rather a celebration of the love we have for each other in a way that reflects our personalities.

By: allthingszilla

allthingszilla — Wed, 19 May 2010 06:14:07 +0000

I'd never thought of that, but you're totally right – we can add weddings to the long list of things that mainstream movies do wrong. I think it's more lazy than anything else, really, though I'm certainly not saying that the writers and producers and directors are off the hook – I just mean it's easier to portray weddings as your stereotypical bridezilla-driven, uninvolved-groom parade of clichés. It's outright laziness – an inability to (or even worse, a disinterest in) discover and invent quirky, offbeat wedding scenes and storylines.

I feel like I've seen some awesome weddings in indie movies, though.

By: Judy

Judy — Tue, 18 May 2010 22:54:42 +0000

When my husband and I got married we had a wedding in a vineyard which was perfect. But then the guest list got out of control. 235 people later my check book started crying. Now looking back on it, 16 years ago this month, I wish I had held fast on the guest list. Over 1/2 those people I never even see anymore- co-workers and etc. If I had to do it again I would have had a wedding in Costa Rica overlooking the Copan valley.