Comments on: PWD (or how BAB Got Her Groove Back)

By: susan

susan — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 14:23:57 +0000

I'm a mother of the bride who is still experiencing terrible lows, and the wedding was a month ago! The day of the wedding I felt great,( the wedding was beautiful), but the very next morning a friend of mine posted a picture of me on facebook. The picture was taken as we (my husband and I) were walking my daughter down the aisle toward the wedding party. Something about that picture made my heart sink. All I kept focusing on was the dress I was wearing. I was instantly filled with a kind of shame! I loved the dress I had chosen before the wedding, but now it looked too sexy! Ick! I still am hyperfocusing on that stupid dress and how much I regret wearing it. After reading these posts, I am starting to realize that the dress is really not the whole cause of my distress. I'm realizing that what I'm feeling is a huge loss in my life, and the picture that I first saw that next morning was symbolic of that loss – we were giving her away!!! Anyway, I wonder if I'll ever get over hating the dress I wore. Every time I look at the pictures, I cringe!!

By: MOB

MOB — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 12:23:47 +0000

Dear MOB's….
Thanks so much for your comments. I came online looking for some help for this terrible low I'm experiencing. It really has me down. I guess it helps to know that it is "normal"…but still.
The wedding was a week ago and I am still caught up in it; dreaming about where to seat people, re-thinking silly details that were a bit off. The wedding was actually over-the-top fantastic and now Im second- guessing the smallest details.
I'm sure my worries were complicated by the fact that we had the wedding and reception at home (I have already redecorated) and so it touched every part of my life. I can't seemed to get organized to do ANYTHING…not even go to the grocery. I had planned a great girls trip in a few weeks…..now I dont even want to go.
Thanks for your words and thoughts. And thanks for giving me a place to "vent". I'll hang tough until this passes.
OMG I have four more daughters and four more weddings in the future…….

By: Leane

Leane — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 15:38:18 +0000

It has been two weeks since the wedding and I am just now feeling better – it was hard!!! I felt like I was never going to be content with real life again, wasn't even excited about our two week vacation coming up soon. I am much better now – if you are going through this just realize that it is a normal phase and you WILL feel better, even though you feel like you never will. The advice in one of the posts above was right on – decorate a room or something that will get you excited about something – I am redoing one of our bathrooms and it helps immensely!!

By: Leane

Leane — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 20:40:18 +0000

As mother of the bride, I too am suffering from the post wedding blues. The wedding was 3 days ago, 7 months after they got engaged and the last 2 months were very intense with all the planning and work. I know it is just let down from all the excitement and even physically just withdrawal from all the adrenaline it required to keep going during the last week. Everything went perfect, I wouldn’t change a thing and I love my new son in law. It is just hard to do so much, have it all over in one day, have the high of the emotions of the fairy tale wedding, then they go off on their honeymoon and you are left at home feeling old and boring. I know it is normal and that it will pass, but it doesn’t make it any easier to go through, it helps to talk about it.

By: Leane

Leane — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 20:12:38 +0000

I hope you are feeling better – read my post of today. It is just something we have to go through. It is just hard to go back to normal, everyday life after the intense work and the fairy tale wedding. It just pales in comparison and takes a while to be content with life again.

By: FARout

FARout — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 17:33:01 +0000

I am a mother-of-the-bride, and I am having the same experience that you describe. Our daughter and I (she gets most of the credit — I was just her secretary and bill-payer) planned her wedding for about a year. The wedding was three weeks ago today, and I still have the blahs. Don't get me wrong — I am so happy that she found someone who makes her happy and that he is just a fantastic guy. And she lives relatively nearby where they lived before the wedding, so it's not like she's moved 1000 miles away. Maybe it's because the reception was at our home, and I'm still exhausted? Someone told us that it took him and his wife three weeks to get back to normal after their daughter's wedding at their home. I dunno. I just need to get my groove back.

By: filmgirl

filmgirl — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 14:32:22 +0000

this is EXACTLY what happened to me..no motivation to exercise, a new obsession for the junk food i had forsaken for months before the wedding and on top that our living room and kitchen became a complete mess with left over decorations, gifts, wedding planning stuff everywhere. and on top of all that i MISSED all the planning and anticipation and daily blog fixes. your post really helped me put it all in perspective and made me feel like I'm not the only one. Thanks!
oh, one more thing – your pictures are gorgeous!!! Congratulations on your marriage!!

By: Holly Noelle @ Domestic Dork

Holly Noelle @ Domestic Dork — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:44:10 +0000

I didn't have post-planning letdown because I had such a small wedding. Instead I had remorse (I didn't even hire a photographer, what was I thinking?!?!). I think time is the key to getting over things like that. Wait it out. Eventually something will come along that gets you going again.

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By: Heidi

Heidi — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 22:24:10 +0000

From one who has been married for almost 5 years, it sneeks up on you again later. I got it about a month after the wedding, it hit me like a ton of bricks, out of no where I started feeling like every thing was over, started anylizing the wedding its self, looking at minor flaws, even though it went perfectly. Then again at the begining of this year. We were going to do a 5 year renewal and before I even got started the blues hit me again. I started reminissing about how great or wedding was. I decided to not do our renewal this year, we are going to wait till 10, and we decided to take a mini trip away just the 2 of us. I found that if I try to stay focused on the house, keeping things looking tidy and do alot of "busy work" and crafts it keeps my mind off of it. I too dive head first into icecream sammies and sweets. It gets better but be warned, it likes a round 2!