PWD (or how BAB Got Her Groove Back)
Post Wedding Depression (PWD) is a real thing, people. It creeps up on you, and latches on quietly to your ambition. It hides around the corners of your wedded bliss and pounces in sneak-attack fashion, dragging you down into stagnation. It hides under your covers, a cold bedfellow, suckling the warmth in your heart until you shiver.
Well, that may be a bit dramatic. But still….
I’m sure the Post-Wedding Blues affect everyone differently, but mine has been coming in the form of laziness, stagnation, overindulgence and non-motivation. I’m sure its been made more powerful by the fact that for 3 weeks I’ve been on crutches, limping ungracefully through life, unable to exercise, unable to even walk without pain. That’s definitely a bummer. Hunter has been battling it too (word up to sensitive groomsies), but his is mildly more assuaged by the relief that all the planning is over.
It seems so silly, after just living the happiest day of our lives, to be whiny, complaining babies. But it also makes sense, after all that anticipation, excitement, attention and payoff, real life doesn’t glitter quite the same way.
This is so not the way I want to begin my Wife-Life. So, this week, I’m hopping back on the horse, taking the reigns, and trying to reclaim my life. The issues:
1. Lack of fitness for the past month. Ain’t no such thing as a healthy mind without a healthy body, and my tore-up body feels anything but healthy. So, we reconnected with Tiger (our friend/trainer) this weekend and she gave me some great exercises I can do that leave my ankle out of the equation. Now I just have to make myself do it. I’m also going to resuscitate the Flab to Fab series, to ensure success. Excited? You bet I am!
2. My overindulgent appetite. The past few weeks I’ve been the queen of sugar, and my addictions have been winning the daily food battle. This morning however, I got up early enough to stop on the way to work and pick up healthy, affordable goodness to replace the over-priced snack bar items to which I’ve been addicted. Fiber One, you are my champion! I’m also trying to reign in my diet coke consumption, which has been off the charts. Hydration, here I come!
3. Organization. We live in a small, bungalow-y apartment with virtually no storage space, and its been completely overrun with wedding leftovers, gifts and general too-lazy-to-deal-with clutter. I’ve started separating things into piles (keep, give away, sell, put away) and I already feel better about things. It will probably take a while to completely prevail, but the wheels are turning, and that’s a start, yo!
Just facing my problem and coming up with solutions has made me feel much better. A wife needs some structure to keep it together, son! Married gals, how have you tackled your PWD? Brides-to-be, do you have a plan in place to combat your blues, after the big day?
I've been experiencing this myself…ate 2 pieces of brownie cheesecake and a package of 5 Breyers chocolate chip ice cream sandwiches (thank God they were light) in a a 4-day span. Glad to know I'm not the only one!
I've been doing some Wii Fit to build up to getting my butt back in the gym!
It feels so lame to admit it but yes, I had it too! I wish I could blame my current inactivity on PWD but I don't think it still counts 6 months later does it? Either way, sounds like you have a plan at the ready and PLEASE forgive yourself for chilling just a little bit right after the huge day! You most certainly deserved a wee little break miss awesomest wedding ever. I love your pictures so so much. x
Just call it Post-Planning Depression. The post-wedding let down is always difficult, but it happens to just about every bride. Putting your heart, soul and every waking hour into making sure your big day is picture perfect in every way can take it's toll. After all is said and done (within the blink of an eye practically) you need something else to focus that energy and passion on, but what?
This is why so many brides feel such a strong urge to start planning weddings on a "professional" level. Don't feel the urge to take up the cause? Instead, might I suggest focusing your energy on planning a post-wedding surprise for your new hubby, or a night out with the girls to reconnect now that your status has gone from: "single, but committed" to: "married, and off the market?" The important thing is to give yourself something attainable to aim for. How about setting a goal for sending out all those thank you cards, or finding a home for all the new gifts, gadgets, and gizmos you received? Be realistic! Sending out 100 thank you notes is a daunting task: write out 5 thank you's per day, this way you feel a sense of accomplishment, and are more inclined to actually take up the task.
Rest assured the post-wedding blues will pass. But until they do, don't be too hard on yourself for feeling the way you do. This too shall pass.
I email all day long with my bestie and talk it out. Yay!
Yikes – something to look forward to, huh? I am getting married in a week and a half and I have already thought about this post wedding depression… but we have a plan! My fiance and I are planning on getting a dog at long last, so that should be an excellent distraction.
that's why so many people actually get cranky and fight on their honey moon – lots of stress release. you just need a new project – hmmm….
Guess what? It happens to the mother of the bride too. Two of my kids got married the same summer. Crazy! The weddings were great and beautiful but I couldn't wait for my normal life to resume only to find I was a little depressed! Boo! So I have advice…. decorate a room, a wall, a space, even new pillows on a bed… it always works for me!
I had it too! People laughed at me but seriously, it was hard! All this planning and then poof, the day is gone.
From one who has been married for almost 5 years, it sneeks up on you again later. I got it about a month after the wedding, it hit me like a ton of bricks, out of no where I started feeling like every thing was over, started anylizing the wedding its self, looking at minor flaws, even though it went perfectly. Then again at the begining of this year. We were going to do a 5 year renewal and before I even got started the blues hit me again. I started reminissing about how great or wedding was. I decided to not do our renewal this year, we are going to wait till 10, and we decided to take a mini trip away just the 2 of us. I found that if I try to stay focused on the house, keeping things looking tidy and do alot of "busy work" and crafts it keeps my mind off of it. I too dive head first into icecream sammies and sweets. It gets better but be warned, it likes a round 2!
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I didn't have post-planning letdown because I had such a small wedding. Instead I had remorse (I didn't even hire a photographer, what was I thinking?!?!). I think time is the key to getting over things like that. Wait it out. Eventually something will come along that gets you going again.
this is EXACTLY what happened to me..no motivation to exercise, a new obsession for the junk food i had forsaken for months before the wedding and on top that our living room and kitchen became a complete mess with left over decorations, gifts, wedding planning stuff everywhere. and on top of all that i MISSED all the planning and anticipation and daily blog fixes. your post really helped me put it all in perspective and made me feel like I'm not the only one. Thanks!
oh, one more thing – your pictures are gorgeous!!! Congratulations on your marriage!!