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I mentioned the other day that I have a few New Years’ resolutions that I feel compelled to tackle before the wedding. I call these my wed-solutions! My biggest wed-solution this year is one I’d still put on my list even if I weren’t getting married in less than 5 months, but I doubt I’d approach it with such determination and focus without the specter of my wedding dress hovering constantly in my mind.

That’s right, its the fitness, y’all! My goal is to become a triple-S: Slim, Straight, and Strong, in time for the wedding and in a way that will be maintainable as a lifestyle for years to come. I want to be super-fine in 2009! Welcome to my journey from Flab to FAB! Won’t you join me?

I know I am not alone in this quest. I see your bloggy resolutions echo mine, I hear your need for healthful change, and I am ready to share my experience as I climb the hill of transformation. It may not always be pretty, and it definitely won’t be easy… but I’m taking this opportunity to not only get in shape before the wedding, but to also address (and put to rest) some long-lived life issues that I do not wish to carry forward into married life.

A little background: My history is rife with laziness, stutter-starts, brief romances with exercise followed by complete abandonment, and over-eating.

  • I’m the girl who has resolved to take control of my fitness every single year for as long as I can remember, but has never once accomplished it. I’m sick and tired of feeling trapped in this cycle.

  • I am notoriously the girl who “just needs that set of weights” or “can’t do it without a gym membership”, but then my new weights become shelter for dust bunnies, who furtively glare at me in an accusatory “you’re lame” dustbunnie manner (dustbunnies are mean y’all)…. and my gym memberships sit untouched in a drawer.
  • I’ve been the girl who becomes completely obsessed with Bikram Yoga and quickly burns out on the heat, the dogma, and the pricetag…. and just.stops.going.altogether.
  • I’m the girl who is always “starting my new life tomorrow” and then eats everything in sight as if it were my last meal.
  • I’m the girl who has a love-hate relationship with food. Honestly, I have an unhealthy relationship with it, and facing up to this is a breakthrough in itself. I think about it way too much, binge eat far too often, and make rationalizations about deserving unhealthy food too much. I’m an emotional, semi-obsessive eater. Its taken me 30 years to realize it, but like they say, admittance is the first step, right?

Basically, I’m the girl that lacks the moderation gene. I’m an extremist, and I’m ready to learn to find a balance. All-or-nothing, ready to become little-bit-(but-not-too-much)-of-everything.

But I can’t do it alone. So, I’ve enlisted the help of a personal trainer (the amazing Tiger) to work with me 3x per week and teach me what my body needs to achieve my goals, make sure I stay in good form and don’t cheat, and help me develop a sustainable, maintainable and realistic lifestyle. And I’m sharing the journey with you, to make myself more accountable, and hopefully help some of you who share my goals!

Tiger is a perfect match for me because she’s all about planning, and has created a system that seems pretty foolproof. First, we identify my S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. This is key because it forces me to get specific on things like “drop down 2 sizes in 5 months” which feels quite manageable to me. Then we create a path to those goals and transfer that onto a calendar, so I can map out my work-outs, and reward myself with a gold star each day I succeed! I’m the kind of girl that lives for gold stars, so I think this is a great method for me. She also provides a food diary, so we can get a real feel for what I’m taking in each day, and address my diet issues.

She’s also all about being outside as often as possible, which I just love, and she has a wonderful style of creating fun in the fitness. Our first session was yesterday and the hour just flew by… most of the exercises were games, and while it was challenging, it sure beat the hum-drum of repetitive cardio and boring weight machines. My achy muscles this morning tell me it worked, and I can’t wait for more!

I’ll keep you posted, regularly, and promise to share my favorite workouts, recipes and tricks as I go along. I’d love to hear yours, as well, so don’t be shy… share your fitness finds!

Any other gals out there with me? Go team Flab to FAB!


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20 Responses to “Wed-solution 1: Flab To Fab!”


  1. AmyJean

    You are me. I am You. AIZO=love/hate relationship… that's me with food too. I don't recall a time when i wasn't on a "diet" and i'm always giving myself excuses. Totally extreme, just can't seem to maintain a streak once i get one going. Loved bikram, but at some point, i have realized i can't "waste" money b/c my laziness will ultimately get in the way.You are me. I am you… I'll join you! Currently i'm trying to get in at least 30 minutes of cardio a day, plus push-ups, abs and or some sort of strength training (On-demand seems helpful for some quick exercises). Good luck! You can do it! I can do it! WE CAN DO IT ! :)

  2. Krista

    I joined weightwatchers two Augusts ago. It's really taught me portion control (except for Christmas – let's just not talk about how I reached my goal weight in mid-December, only to be up 6lbs). I do want to get more toned and fit, so I'll be following along with you! :)

  3. Kristy

    I signed up for the Boot Camp workout class at the YMCA right by my apartment. It's for one hour, twice a week, for a month. I can handle that, right? . . . We'll see. I will also be posting the workouts and how I'm feeling after each one. My prediction for tonight is shaky and probably queasy as well…But I'm going, and I will continue to go, and I am determined that I will not quit before it's over. =)

  4. Roni

    OK, you just described me 4 years ago and I did find that balance. Evey now and then I trip but not like I used to. It's TOTALLY POSSIBLE! I KNOW you can do this! Keep me posted! -Roni

  5. bekapaige

    Good for you!! I definitely need to start thinking about healthier habits, both in terms of my food content and exercise. Hmm, maybe tomorrow ;)Seriously though, all the best! Get those good habits established now.

  6. melissa

    Good for you! I still think resolving to make changes and not able to carry them out is still better than not letting in cross your mind. I have been working out diligently 3 times a week for a year and trying to watch what I eat. But no results. Not on the scale at least but have toned up alot. Going to a dietitian soon.good luck to you!

  7. Event Girl

    Bootcamp – that's all I can say. I signed up last spring (4 times per week @ 7am), and it kicked my @ss! Winter has added a few pounds (not outdoor bootcamp right now), but I hit the triple S – Slim, Straight + Strong! Really, really strong!

  8. Emily

    I've been in (and am currently in) your position so many times. Last year, my mom wanted to join Weight Watchers so I joined with her. I quickly lost ten pounds and then gained 15. Somewhere in the middle I threw out my "big clothes" and now have a closet full that doesn't fit well. My stress is so much higher when I'm not working out, too, so I'm really trying to make this a long term habit rather than a short term fix.I'm doing 30 Day Shred (and hoo boy, is it hard!) along with jogging on my treadmill. I'm trying to watch my food intake as well (but admittedly – I'm not that good at it). Maybe we'll all be able to support each other all the way to success!

  9. Carly

    Hooray for getting in shape! I know you can do it!!! I, too, have to set long term goals to tone up my body and eat healthy. I'm amorphous right now due to lack of muscle (abs? what abs?) I have motivation issues, too – so I'm excited to follow along with you! Keep us updated on your progress! xoxo

  10. Meg

    First of all I love that you call them wed-solutions!! I have a very long list of my own wed-solutions and I plan to post using your term soon…if you don't mind. I think finding a balance is sooo important. It is crucial that your plan has to fit you…for the long haul. As a personal trainer I total support you getting a trainer :)…Good Luck!! Keep us posted.

  11. Anonymous

    Ooh…i wish I could get a personal trainer, but it's a no-go on the budget (seriously, tiger is over $150 a week!!). Been reading long enough to know you're a bargain shopping diva–how'd your broke-ass manage this one?

  12. Geek in Heels

    Same here, *raises hand* – I am an extremist too! I can’t afford a trainer for a gym right now so I started working out with DVDs…and I’m liking them so far! Please keep us posted on your progress!

  13. Mel

    I'm with you! My relationship to food and exercise is identical to yours and I just started the year, newly engaged and ready to finally kick my issues to the curb. I agree COMPLETELY with the notion of balance and moderation, it's the only way to go.

  14. Linda

    I gave you an award!I can't wait to follow your progress!

  15. Heidi@TrulyEngaging

    Love this post! Thanks for making me laugh and keenly aware of my protruding mid-section. Your wedding will motivate you but it's good mind & body health that will sustain your routine. All the Best!

  16. Bride Sophisticate

    I love this post too and you've described me to a T! Its a curse, I lack the moderation gene as well. Please do keep us posted, you will definitely be motivation for me and Im sure lots of other ladies as well. I've been procrastinating with going to the gym for days and I just need to do it!I've awarded you in my latest blog post. Thanks for being my motivation today!!!

  17. J Sandifer

    Doing the same right now…April 25th is the date!You might also want to check out the $50 raffle for $5000 in wedding services from documentary photographer http://www.emilieinc.com to support a new non-profit: http://pinkinitiative.org/

  18. Yellowgoat

    I did load of exercise before I get marry, I swam 2km and did various machines in the gym for 1.5 hour, and that's per day at my craziest week. I'm those who once obsessed, can do anything, until I loose interest. I was really tired, because I was eating less carb then I should have and I realize it's not very healthy, so I took it easy a little bit and the amazing thing is, when I took it easy, the body respond well and loose more weight then when I was getting extreme exercise.So moderation is the key, and give yourself sometime. I think you can do it. I did change my priority, exercise first and every other things comes in second except my then fiance now husband.

  19. Nicole

    I'm with ya! I still have a while (thankfully), the date is October 24th. I recently read and article detailing the lengths brides go to lose weight and mind you, I won't go overboard, but I also know I won't be happy with the wedding photos unless I lose a couple of pounds. :o) Good luck!

  20. Jess

    This is so me too! My wedding is in July so I have a little more time but I've gotten more and more disgusted with my food habits (eat relatively healthy but WAY too much of it) and my lack of exercise motivation or burning out too quick. Good luck with your training! I think having someone like that will really help! Love the blog :)